Effective Critiques

Sometimes, it is better to leave things or people the way they are, and probably that's what makes a person unique. What one thinks is good for others may not actually be good to that person or may not even be helpful or good to begin with. Also, is one's perception of correctness flawed too? We have different opinions and there are many things where there are no right or wrong. Where one thinks a person has flawed may be just a prejudiced perception.

It is very very tiring and draining to have to explain over trivial things. Sometimes, life is easier and happier when you leave things as they are. While critics are good, but over-doing them for very wrong reasons are certainly very very very... annoying. One have to be aware of one's capacity and perception of correctness before brandishing the change-the-world wand and embark on a crusade of changing anyone who does not do things the way one wants them to be done. Again, it brings me back to the point of one's perception of correctness.

When 2 people or more than 2 people think that they are correct simultaneously, of course, the best way (my opinion may be flawed and even totally wrong for some reasons I can't comprehend, as usual) out of such a situation is TOLERANCE...

People react to critics differently, if the reaction to a critique is very bad, then maybe just leave it, or maybe you can re-look at the critique. Is it constructive? Is it called for? Of course, when one critiques, one may think it is constructive....otherwise, given one's perception of correctness, one won't have uttered nonconstructive things to begin with. Of course, you may feel that the other party is obstinate to constructive critiques.

One may be wrong from time to time, and critiques are always welcomed. But the person at the receiving end of the critiques have something called FEELINGS. You can't just say what you want, when you want. Ration the critiques. Respect yourself and accord it to other people.

While the critiques were meant in good way, when put across wrongly becomes very offensive and hence, survival instinct kicks in on the other party. The effectiveness of a constructive critique does not solely depend on the receptivity of the receiver, it is just as important how it is delivered. When unknowingly too much trivialized and uncalled for critiques together with useful ones are delivered, no one knows for sure which ones are important, the limit might be crossed.

Lead your life the way you want to. If however, for some reasons, you wish to enter people's life to tweak somethings, you have to choose the right, or issit wrong things to tweak. Don't just anyhow tweak. While pride and self-esteem stand in the way of change, effective criticism does not involve bulldozing the two down. Mutual respect is instrumental to any effective critiques.

Sometimes you need to give people time to see the goodness in them. Wait long enough. If however, you still don't see any goodness, accept things as they are and life will be much happier and carefree. You can't force a horse to drink the water if it doesn't want to. Find other horses. Do not waste your time on stubborn horses. They are not worth the effort.